Share the joy of Christmas with your domestic helper


Next Tuesday (25/12/2018) is Christmas. Let us share the joy of Christmas with our domestic helpers who have left their homes, come to Hong Kong to serve us and our families.

I asked the domestic helpers a question: If your employer wants to give you a Christmas gift, what do you want to receive?

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Here are their answers (the top 6 things they want, 1 = the most preferred, and so on):

1 Give the helper a red pocket --
~ You can consider giving a red pocket to your domestic helper as a Christmas gift, so that they can buy Christmas gifts for their children and family / celebrate Christmas with their friends and enjoy the holidays. The amount of money to be given depends on the employer's preference, or the performance of the domestic helper.

2 Holidays--

~Most helpers, no matter what their religious background are, want to have holiday on Christmas day, so they can enjoy the holidays with friends in Hong Kong. (According to <<Labour Law>>, employers are required to give a foreign domestic helper a holiday on Christmas.) They are unhappy to spend the holiday alone.

~ If your helper is a Filipino, Christmas is a big holiday in the Philippines. Many Filipino helpers hope to return to the Philippines and celebrate Christmas with their families. If you are unable to arrange it, please try your best to arrange for them to have a holiday on Christmas Day, so they can go to the church (most Filipinos are Catholics and Christians).

~ for helpers working for less than 3 months:

According to the <<labour Law>>, the helpers working in Hong Kong for less than 3 months can also enjoy statutory holidays (but without pay). In other words, employers can deduct their helpers’ current salary when they go out for the public holiday.

In spite of this, I recommend all the employers to be generous to your helpers. Even if they worked for less than 3 months, let them enjoy the salary of Christmas Day. This directly shows your kindness and love to the helpers, which in turn will make their hearts be more willing to stay in your family.

~ If your new helper is a Filipino, please observe if she has any signs of homesickness - such as: easy to cry, shows black faces, working performance declines. If yes, you or your spouse (depending on who manages her) should find a time to talk to her, listen patiently, let her express the feeling of homesick and encourage her. On Christmas Day, give her a long time to use her mobile phone. If you don't want to share your WIFI password with your helper, you may consider lending your computer or laptop so that she can use SKYPE to chat with her family at Christmas to reduce her homesickness. Homesickness is one common reason for new helper to resign.

3 clothes --

Most helpers are women, after 6 days’ work, most of the helpers would like to dress up nice to enjoy the holiday. Besides. most of them never experience winter in their own countries, so they may not have enough winter clothes to keep warm. Beautiful clothes can make most ladies happy. Winter clothes help them to feel employer’s love and care directly.


4 Respect --
~ Not only Christmas, most helpers express their hunger to feel respected. Employers, the family members and the helper should respect each other all the times. Please do not easily get angry, never shout loudly them, give them enough food and rest, and give salary on time. Almost all the helpers say that they are happy to work for a reasonable employer who respect them, give them dignity at work.

5 cosmetics / sim card / coffee / watch / Bible

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No matter your domestic helper is from the Philippines, Indonesia, Thailand, Sri Lanka, or other countries, please thank her/him for leaving her/his home and serving your family. Let her/him know that you appreciate her/his sacrifice. As an employer, your warm and encouraging words can give your helper(s) job satisfaction, ease the sense of loneliness during the holidays, and decrease their desire to quit.

Christmas is coming, I wish you and your domestic helper a Merry Christmas!

與你的外傭分享聖誕的喜悅

下星期二(25/12/2018)就是聖誕節,讓我們一起與離鄉背井、來香港服侍我們的外傭分享聖誕的喜悅。

我曾向一些外傭收集意見: 若僱主想送他們一份聖誕禮物,他們想要什麼?

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以下是他們的答案(按熱門次序):

我同你去得蹺課1 給她一個紅包--

~可考慮給外傭一個紅包作為聖誕禮物,使她們能買聖誕禮物給孩子和家人/ 與朋友慶祝聖誕、享受假期 。金額按僱主喜好/ 外傭工作表現而定。

2 假期--

~ 在香港工作不足3個月的外傭: 他們可享受法定假日(但無薪)。也就是說,僱主在外傭放公眾假期時,可扣除她當天的工資。雖然如此,我建議僱主們對您的外傭慷慨。即使她工作不足3個月,讓她享受聖誕節一天的工資。這可令外傭直接感受到您的愛和關懷,助他們更快融入您的家庭 。

~ 聖誕節是菲律賓的大節日。菲傭最希望可以回菲律賓和家人慶祝聖誕。請菲傭僱主觀察你的菲傭可有思鄉跡象,如:易哭,木無表情,工作表現下降。若有的話,您或您的配偶(取決於誰管理她)應該找個時間跟她傾談(把觀察到的現象告訴他,給他機會訴說思鄉之情感、用心聆聽,認同他們的感受。請不要說: 不用掛心家人,專心在港工作。這是無用的安慰)。在聖誕當日給她較長時間使用手機,與家人聊天。如果您不想與外傭分享WIFI密碼,可以考慮借您的電腦或筆記本電腦給她,讓她可使用SKYPE與家人在聖誕節聊天,以減她思鄉之情。
~如果僱主未能安排讓菲傭在聖誕節回菲,請也盡量安排他們在聖誕節正日放假(根據<<勞工法例>>, 僱主要在聖誕節或冬至其中一日給外傭放假。) 如您不能讓外傭在25/12放假,請考慮給她平安夜放假,讓他們可返教會, 與同鄉慶祝佳節。

3 衣服--

大部份外傭是女性,經過六日辛苦的工作,一般都希望把自己打扮得漂漂亮亮的外出。此外,他們很多來自亞熱帶,沒有冬天,,故未必有足夠保暖的冬天衣物。你的外傭可有足夠保暖衣物? 漂亮或保暖的衣物或許是一個不錯的選擇。

4 尊重--.

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~不單是聖誕節,平時僱主和家人也應與外傭互相尊重,不會高聲呼喝工人、給足夠食物及休息、準時出糧等,這才能留住外傭為您工作的心!

5 化妝品/ simcard/ 咖啡/ 手錶/ 聖經/ 善待外傭

無論您的外傭是來自菲律賓、印尼、泰國、印度斯里蘭卡,或其他國家,請感謝她離鄉別井,到您的家中工作,讓她知道您很欣賞她為家人作出的犧牲。僱主的言語肯定,可提升他們的工作滿足感和歸屬感、減輕過節時的孤單感和辭職的意欲。

聖誕即將來臨,預祝您和您的外傭聖誕快樂。

願意幫助人的家長們, 應該先被裝備和祝福

有幸連續兩天在循道衛理觀塘社會服務處神愛關懷中心教導托兒義工們關於「嬰幼兒心理成長及發展、嬰幼兒護理技巧、衛生常識、嬰幼兒進食固體食物及營養」, 裝備他們將來協助中心, 為全職照顧者的家庭提供免費暫托服務。

以下是課堂完結後, 家長義工們的反省及回應:

“在照顧孩子方面, 有些方法可能沒有絕對的對錯。以前我照顧孩子的方法, 家人不同意, 說我做得不對。但聽老師的教導後, 我發覺原來自己以前堅持一些照顧孩子的方法, 原來也是對的。(雖然方法)與家人不同, 不代表一定是我(或家人)的方法錯。原來照顧孩子, 可以有多個一個方法。"

“我學到正確抱嬰兒的不同方法。以前照顧自己嬰兒時, 時常和家人為此而衝突。"

“我最深刻學到的是: 孩子訓練我, 還是我訓練孩子。我要學習在什麼事情上, 應取回訓練員的身份。現在很多時, 是孩子(兩歲多)主導我(我聽/跟隨孩子話)。似乎我的孩子做了(我的)媽媽, 我做了孩子(的角色)。我學到應該做”番”媽媽的角色, 讓孩子做”番”孩子的角色。

“我最深刻的是不要把自己的孩子和其他孩子比較, 每個孩子都是獨特的。我生第一個孩子時, 由於沒有照顧孩子經驗, 身邊很多人有很多意見, 說: 是否應該這樣那樣..., 為我製造很多煩惱。 到第二個孩子出世, 當其他人嘗試比較兩個孩子時, 我就立即制止他們, 說一定不可以拿孩子們來比較。(原來自己所堅持的, 是對)"

“我最深刻學到, 第一: 我們訓練孩子, 還是讓孩子訓練我們。第二: 老師說, 照顧孩子的時方法可以有很多, 在不涉及絕對對錯的事情上, 家人應該 (商量)達成共識 (容許大家有不同照顧方法) 。(在絕對對錯的事情上, 家人應該一致)。我覺得很有同感。

“我最深刻的是: 1 孩子先爬還是先行(的分別和影響), 2. (關於孩子不同年紀聽覺及視覺的發展)家中的孩子八個月大, 真的對顏色鮮艷和聲音的反應很大, (所學到的)真的很"貼地"。

“以前不明白為何有些兒童不停說話、 有些不喜歡說話、有些性情古怪。現在聽完(老師的教導), 就明白可能在他們零至0-3歲時, 有很多東西沒有人教(照顧者沒有教導/ 給予適當的外在刺激), 所以學不到(影響性格的塑造)。原來在孩子0-6歲時, 有很多東西都要教他們。"

“很深刻第一: 不要拿孩子和其他人比較, 對孩子的成長(有不好的影響)。常常被拿來和其他人比較, 這些孩子的自尊心很低。第二: 一家人真的需要溝通, (協調)怎樣去照顧小朋友。

“很深刻每個孩子都是獨特的, 適用於我孩子身上, 不代表是用於其他孩子身上。”

“我學到照顧孩子時, 安全、衛生、營養等固然重要, 但原來家庭和諧都好重要。”

從家長義工們的回應, 發現他們除了學習知識, 同時有很大的開放性, 反省自己照顧孩子的方法、作為家長的角色等, 這令我感到很鼓舞, 也為他們高興。願我的教導能祝福你們及你們的家人外, 將來做義工時, 記得把你們所學到的, 祝福來暫托的孩子們。

Things employers/helpers should do BEFORE the typhoon no. 8 is hoisted

If the Hong Kong Observatory forecast that the typhoon signal no. 8 might be hoisted on the foreign domestic helpers’ coming holiday, what should employers and helpers do?

Suggestions:

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  1. If an employer wants to give a helper holiday as usual, the employer should advise the helper to have holiday and rest at home for safety reason. In case the helper insists to have holiday outside and the typhoon no. 8 signal is hoisted, the helper may be in trouble to return home.

    (A gentle reminder: all helpers should enjoy 24 hours rest in their holidays, employers have NO right to ask their helpers to work. The employers who force their helpers to work on their holidays will violate the Hong Kong labour laws.)

  2. If the helper decides to rest at home, employer should consider whether free food will be provided. If NOT, employer should arrange time to let the helper go out to buy food as early as possible, when the weather is not too bad.

  3. When the weather is bad, employers should not ask their helpers to do unnecessary outdoor work. If the employers really need the helpers to work outdoor, please provide sufficient protective equipment for the helper’s safety. If the helper was wounded during the above outdoor work, it is work injury.

  4. Employers should discuss with the helpers, if the helpers agree, employers can rearrange another day for holiday, to replace the original holiday. The replacement should be arranged within 30 days of the original holiday.

I strongly advise all employers and helpers to discuss the arrangement of holidays BEFORE the typhoon no. 8 is hoisted so as to prevent future argument. If you are a helper, DON’T BE SHY to discuss with your employer.

懸掛8號風球前,僱主(外傭)應注意的事項

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假如天文台發出暴風信號3號,並有機會轉掛8號風球,恰巧那天是外傭的假期,僱主應注意什麼?

以下是給僱主的建議:

  1. 若僱主仍希望給外傭照顧常放假, 僱主應為安全理由,叮囑她因為天氣惡劣,應考慮不要外出,但照常休假,只是留在家中。這也可避免後來若改掛8號風球時,外傭因冇車回家而要求在外留宿的可能。

    (當然, 僱主請緊記: 1, 外傭放假期間, 應享有二十四小時休息, 僱主不能要要求他/她工作; 僱主若強迫外僱在休息日工作除,即屬違反[僱傭條例]的規定。除非外傭自願在休息的工作。)

  2. 外傭在家休息時, 僱主會否免費提供三餐。如答案是 “不” 的話, 請盡早給外傭時間外出,購買食物。

  3. 在惡劣天氣下,如非必要,僱主不應要求外傭在室外工作,以免發生危險。若僱主需要外傭在室外工作,必須提供足夠安全裝備,以防外傭在意外發生時受傷。(假如真的發生意,僱主需要支付所有醫療開支,並要賠工傷)

  4. 僱主也可與外傭商量,如他/她同意,僱主可另定休息日,代替原來指定的休息日。另定休息日須安排在同一個月內的原定休息日之前,或在原定休息日的30天內。

精明的僱主,應盡早和外傭訂明8號風球,及惡劣天氣下的放假安排,以減少衝突及誤會,破壞僱傭關係。

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家訪後感

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"雖然在護理bb的課堂上學了不少知識、以及有不少實習;又在醫院學到不少護理的常識, 但回到家中, 面對的確實是另一回事, 特別是可以就著bb個別的情況和家居環境提供護理bb的意見。

我們認為有護士到訪家庭, 能夠正確地糾正我們照顧bb時的陋習(如: 錯誤觀念/方法) 。" ~張生

上門指導張先生夫婦、婆婆和菲傭如何照顧兩個可愛的早產BB。

看到張生一家因學到照顧初生嬰兒(餵奶、沐浴、母乳餵哺)的知識和方法所帶來的快樂, 自己也感到無比滿足。

家訪後, 聽張生說, 張太經我指導母乳餵哺的技巧和方法後, 乳汁分泌增多 , 真替他們高興。因為, 兩個BB可以享受更多被媽媽抱住飲人奶的幸福。這對他們身體健康、被愛感覺、信任感、安全感的建立, 有十分重要的影響。媽媽作為母親的滿足感也會提昇。

祝兩位BB健康快樂成長。張生張太, 加油!

(由於一個BB正享受媽媽埋身餵哺母乳, 故我只和一位BB合照)

*如有家庭希望我上門指導照顧初生嬰兒、母乳餵哺、嬰兒按摩、嬰兒瑜伽運動等, 歡迎直接用電郵<kathy@icarefamily> 或whatsapp 95035956 聯絡我。

18 June 2018 and 1 July 2018 are foreign domestic helpers' holidays

Gentle Reminders for new employers and new helpers:

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According to the Employment Ordinance, all employees are entitled to the above statutory holidays. Therefore, 18 June 2018, Monday(Tuen Ng"Dragon Boat" Festival) and 1 July 2018, Monday(Hong Kong Special Administrative Region Establishment Day) are also the statutory holidays of the foreign domestic helpers. 

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Helpers who are working less than three months are also entitled to statutory holiday (without pay-- that means employers should let their helpers enjoy the two holidays and deduct their 2 days salary). If the helper have been employed continuously for three months, she  is entitled to have the holiday with pay.

Employer may require helper(s) to work on a statutory holiday. However, the employer must:

  • give notice to helpers for not less than 48 hours in advance ;

  • within 60 days before or after the holiday, arrange an alternative holiday for the helpers.

 Q&A

Q: If helper(s) agree, can employers give  an additional statutory holiday pay in lieu of granting him / her a replacement of an alternative holiday?

A: NO. An employer who violates the above requirements may be prosecuted. Upon conviction, the employer is liable to a fine of HK $ 50,000.

2018年6月18日及2018年7月1日是外籍家庭傭工的公眾假期

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新手僱主需知:

根據香港<<公眾假期條例>>, 端午節(2018年6月18日)及香港特別行政區成立紀念日(2018年7月1日)也是外籍家庭傭工的公眾假期。外傭若工作未滿三個月,也可享有法定假日(但沒有薪酬-意思是僱主應在這兩日讓外傭放假, 和扣減兩日薪金)。外傭如在法定假日之前已獲僱主連續僱用滿三個月,便可享有該假日的假日薪酬。

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僱主可以要求外傭在法定假日工作。不過,僱主必須:

預先給予外傭不少於48小時的通知;以及在原定假日之前或之後60天內、安排另定假日給外傭。

外傭同意, 僱主可否以額外補薪代替發放法定假日給他/她?

不可以。僱主如違反上述規定. 用功你個可被檢控。一經定罪,可被罰款港幣5萬元。

First Aids, Common Causes and Prevention for children's Nosebleeds

 

Several foreign domestic helpers ask me about the first aid of children's nosebleeds, so I would like to share this topic with all children's caregivers(I wrote it in Chinese before “育兒知識- 幼兒流鼻血急救方法、常見原因及日常護理 27/3/2018”). Remember to share it with you foreign domestic helper(s) if you are employers.

New parents may feel worried and panic to see their children suffering from nosebleeds. Bleeding from the nose are common for children. In most conditions, it is not a sign of any underlying problem, can be stopped easily in few minutes.


Steps to Stop a Nose Bleed

1 The caregiver should keep calm.

(if the kid sees that the adult are nervous or crying, they will feel more worried and nervous)

2 Let the child sit upright, keeping the head higher than the level of the heart. Do not lay flat or put the head between the legs.

(this reduces the blood pressure in the blood vessels of the nose, will discourage further bleeding)

3 Ask the child to lean forward slightly with the head tilted forward.

(this will drain blood down his/her nose instead of down the back of the throat.  Leaning back or tilting the head back allows the blood to run back into the sinuses and throat, which may cause gagging/ inhaling of blood)

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4 Teach the child to breathe with his mouth, use the thumb and index finger all the soft parts of the nostrils below the bridge of the nose with pressure for at least 10 minutes.Repeat as necessary until the nose has stopped bleeding.

5 Apply ice pack/ cold compress (wrapped in a towel) on the forehead or the back of the neck.

(Cold causes blood vessels to constrict, reducing blood flow, swelling and inflammation. Pressure on the back of the neck restricts flow of blood to the head)

6 Teach the child not to blow the nose/put anything into it. If the child has to sneeze, teach him/her to open the mouth so that the air will escape out the mouth and not through the nose.

 

If the bleeding eventually stops, no need to seek medical advice.

The parents should consider to bring the child to see a doctor/ the hospital's Accident & Emergency Department only if the nosebleed won't stop.  

You must report to the employer whenever the child has nosebleeds if you are a domestic helper.

 

Reasons for Nosebleeds

There are many reasons that cause nosebleeds in children(2-10 years old) the most common ones include:

1. Stay in the place with low humidity or high temperature for long time(such as dry winter or summer air) may cause the inside of the nose to become dry

2. Children's nasal mucosa is more fragile than adults, full of tiny, delicate blood vessels which can be damaged and caused bleeding easily by~

  • Sneezing
  • Blow the nose with force

  • Habitual pickingthe nose.

3. Blood-related diseases, such as abnormalities in the quantity or quality of platelets, abnormal coagulation mechanisms, etc.

4. Knocks and Bumps to the nose


When a child experiences nosebleeds frequently or regularly, parents should consider to bring  hime/her to seek medical care. If necessary, they may refer the child to an ear, nose and throat (ENT) specialist for further tests and assessment.

 

Prevention of Nosebleeds

Things to do to reduce the chance of nosebleeds include:

1  teach the child not to pick the nose, blow the nose gently, as little as possible.

2 keep the child’s fingernails short, teach the children to keep their noses clean and develop good hygienic habits.

3 make sure the child has enough water intake throughout the day.

4 when the humidity is low/temperature is dry, regularly apply petroleum jelly (such as Vaseline) to the inside of the child’s nostrils to keep the inside of the nose moist.

5 keep the home humidified

6 let the child wear a head guard during activities in which his/her nose or head could get injured.

Next time, when a child has nosebleeds, we know how to handle it. May this article bless all the caregivers and the children. 

 

If you want to give your child better care and protection, please consider to equip yourself or your domestic helper by applying for the the following class:

Common Infant and Child Diseases, Nursing Care, Home Safety for Newborn and Children Class 初生嬰幼兒常見疾病、家居常見意外及護理 (英語教授)(Course Code 課程編號:EE20180524b)